Anjani's Blog

Ever wonder what is means to be a ‘person’. I did not do it actively, I mean I was born this way. Nothing ‘new’. But throughout the years you get to fulfill different roles and in some cases it becomes clear that there is a ‘difference’. As a young girl growing up I used to hear: ‘With girls you have to be extra careful’ and I remember asking myself: ‘Why? What do they mean, what is there to be careful about?” I didn’t get it. As you grow into your teenage years it becomes somewhat clearer… it has to do with boys, sexuality, relationships. With boys you have to worry about drugs, the ‘right’ friends, sports. At least, that’s the impression I got. As if boys don’t have emotions, feelings etc. I worked at a family planning clinic for a long time and sexuality and reproductive health matters was my area of expertise. I learned a lot in that time as a 20-er myself. The importance to treat both genders equally (which was obvious to me), to educate, inform and communicate. To give men and women a voice to speak out about their feelings, their needs, their wishes, their dreams and how they think they can achieve that. To offer them equal chances. Building healthy relationships is of utmost importance throughout our lives. It is sad to see so many do not get a chance to be able to be who they are, because, yes, you can be gay, transgender or anything else. I am saddened by stories I hear about people not accepting others for who they are. I came to realize that freedom is one of the basic needs for people in every aspect. Can we please simply try to just ‘be kind to one another’ as Ellen (who I adore!!!!) always says. We are all people in need of love and affection, respect and kindness, it’s really not that difficult.

Cheers! Anjani